A couple of things of late have made me reflect on how we define success and how we try to give advice to others on what they should or need to do to achieve it.

One being a recent article in Femail that was flagged up to me last week.

And I quote:

Louise (Vesey) is one of a new breed of middle-class women who, quite simply, consider themselves too clever to have children.

‘You can be too intelligent to have children,’ she says. ‘To reach your full intellectual potential you need to be childless. If you are a thinking woman it’s more sensible not to become a parent.’

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As a caller with the Craigievar Scottish Country Dance Band we’re privileged to play at what is for many one of the happiest days of their lives. As I write this I’m waiting in the ante room before we go on, listening to the groom’s speech and it strikes me that its one of the few times that people are truly positive about everyone.

I was at a funeral recently and of course that’s the other time. At that point, those we love proclaim our footprint to the world in it’s very best light. It’s the sort of feedback we just don’t normally get in our everyday lives – Performance Appraisals simply don’t cover that sort of thing.

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