Making a change stick

Have you ever tried to change something, give something up or start something new and not managed it very well?

Like going to the gym.

You know it’s a good idea and there are lots of reasons why you should go, but after going once or twice the motivation fades and you give up.

Or giving up alcohol.

Again, a great idea – at this time of year many of us are convinced we need to drink less – but after a week or two of moderation we’re back in our usual pattern.

What does it take to break the pattern and make a change like that successful?


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The two crucial questions we need to ask when it comes to public speaking

We all know about the importance of key messages. It’s one of the first questions we ask ourselves when we agree to a “public speaking” engagement. Or it should be.

Quite often the question comes out as:

What shall I speak about?

That’s great. To sort out a theme. To know if we will be talking about dogs, or moon landings, or ballet, or chandeliers…But it doesn’t answer the key message question. For that we may need to ask something like:

What’s my point?

Because any one of these subjects might be artfully used to illustrate a particular point. An angle. An argument. A belief. A passion.

The theme is not the point. The theme is the conduit for the point.

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